Empowering victims until they no longer are victims
The Sacred Innocence Empowerment Program
The Sacred Innocence Empowerment Program helps victims address problems of dysfunctional emotions, behaviors, and cognitions and emotional intelligence. Victims will identify, manage, and assess the emotions of one-self. Through our online 12-step program victims will learn how to overcome their past stop the abuse from continuing and tap into their potential through our therapist reviewed educational program.
People are not afraid of change, they are afraid of giving up what they know, even if it is bad. They are afraid to move forward because they have not experienced what the change will bring nor do they trust themselves to accomplish the change. People want to avoid more pain when they have been through a lot of pain. But the fact is, by confronting our past we will experience pain, perhaps more pain as we release it but the victim will gain a sense of inner strength, an inner clarity, and a better sense of who they really are. Only then can they look forward to the future.
Every human being is of great worth. No matter the nationality, culture, religious beliefs or social status, every human being has the right to be treated with dignity, respect and protection. A person who is denied such conditions are denied those fundamental rights and freedoms that should be available to everyone. Nevertheless, all is not lost. Each person, no matter their circumstances are not denied a purpose and can still tap into their potential. If a person has experienced sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse and neglect, they can still tap into and develop their intelligence, their talents, and their greatest human qualities. An abuse survivor can lead a fulfilling life and come to understand there is life after abuse. There is Hope and with Hope comes Choice. For Change to endure, people must transform themselves. They must stop feeling powerless and start taking responsibility for their actions. Victims need to stop feeling hopeless about their future and start seeing better possibilities within their grasp. At Sacred Innocence we believe that personal resiliency, perseverance, and a positive sense of self that participants acquire through the Sacred Innocence Empowerment Program is the most important factor to their success in the program, at work and in life. When a victim of sexual abuse regains their worth, knows how to protect their themselves and their children from further sexual abuse or abuse of any form, they contribute to strengthening family values and help themselves and their children become contributing members of society.
Victims need purpose as much as they need food, water, and air. We have all heard of Victor Frankl, a holocaust survivor. He said “what separated the living from the dead was not age, physical strength or health. Many who were weaker, older, and sickly survived while others did not. Survivors were distinguished by their ability to envision a future for themselves despite their suffering. They believed there was purpose to their lives then and in the future. “They did not surrender to despair.” It may seem different then what you would expect that an older person could envision a future over a younger one but that is exactly the point. People of all ages and conditions can choose to live a life dedicated to a purpose.
The survivors were living proof of what Friedrich Nietzsche said: He who has a why can bear any how.
They say most of us will never go through the horror that Frankl experienced but the fact is, children of Family Sexual Abuse also experience great horror on a daily basis. Sexual abuse is not an isolated abuse. It is often coupled with other types of abuse, such as physical abuse, emotional abuse, manipulation and coercion. Sexual abuse is not making love consensually between two adults. How can a 5 year old little girl or boy give a father, uncle, grandfather or stepfather the okay to understand the sexual requests? They can’t. Sexual Abuse consists of manipulation, bribes, and forcing the child to be in sexual situations. Often when a child complains and says no, physical violence occurs until they are submissive to the requests. Sexual relations between a parent and their own child is against the law. RAINN, a nationally known advocacy group against any type of sexual assault defines sexual abuse as, “child sexual abuse does not need to include physical contact between a perpetrator and a child. Some forms of child sexual abuse include: exposing oneself to a minor, fondling, intercourse, masturbation in the presence of a minor or forcing the minor to masturbate, obscene phone calls, text messages, or digital interaction, producing, owning, or sharing pornographic images or movies of children, sex of any kind with a minor, including vaginal, oral or anal, sex trafficking and any other sexual conduct that is harmful to a child’s mental, emotional or physical welfare. Imagine living in a home where a child is at the mercy of the abuser each day, each week, each month. After years of this kind of abuse, no wonder the descriptions of feeling broken, used, and damaged are associated with how victims feel. Unfortunately, it is also how society views them. Nevertheless, the lesson is clear, as people have experienced sexual abuse the only way to overcome and thrive is if they are focused on a clear purpose. When a person has been sexually abused they are often uncertain where they stand, where they are going, and what path they should be on. Purpose is the guiding force that keeps us focused on our true north. Just as a functioning compass, no matter where you stand, will always point north. A functioning adult always has the potential and capacity to tap into that highest and greatest part of themselves. In essence, Sacred Innocence believes every child deserves to grow up in an abuse free home. Sacred Innocence believes if a victim learns the tools necessary to change the patterns of abuse in their family and become “chainbreakers” they will turn from victim to heroine in their family line. The name of our nonprofit, Sacred Innocence, bares our vision of the importance and value of a child to be worthy of respect, human dignity, and the importance of protecting their very innocence